3 Ways to be a Stellar Team Member

This week my Level 1 Improv class ended at Limelight Theatre. After eight weeks together, students were scurrying around connecting on Facebook, requesting a yearbook of their time together and generally dragging their feet leaving the room as no one wanted the team experience to come to an end. Why?

Because although they had entered the room as strangers only two months prior, the group had formed bonds through successful team engagement.

While every improv class is a shared group experience that focuses on connecting, not every group gels as beautifully as this one. The same can be said of improv troupes, sports teams, work units, families and any other environment where groups of people co-exist. So what made this group play so well together? Each person agreed to:

1. Show up. While at first glance this seems easy and obvious, it really isn’t. Not only are you to literally show up in the space, but you must set your phone aside, make eye contact, participate, engage and be willing to be part of the process the group is experiencing. No sitting on the sidelines or else the group dynamic suffers.

2. Be positive. I often talk about how I can coach someone to improve improv skills, but I can’t coach someone to have a better attitude. Positivity breeds positivity. The same can be said for negativity. A group that enters their shared space smiling with the mindset of “let’s try” rather than “that won’t work” looks forward to working, creating, playing together again and again.

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Missing the Moment? Me Too.

Last month I had the unusual opportunity to visit both major cities — Philadelphia and Denver — I’ve lived in within a three-week period. It was almost like a two-part version of “This is Your Life” with various friends and family members congregating at old hangout spots – no improv required. As fun as it sounds, there are also potential pitfalls to an intense walk down memory lane with a robust cast of characters. They include:

  1. Playing the “What if …?” game. “What if” I still lived here? “What if” I never left? “What if” I took a different job, made a different choice, dated a different person, adopted a different pet, had a different hairstyle, a different outfit, a different color toenail polish – yes, it can get that ridiculous.
  2. The tourist vs. resident trap. Go back to a place you used to live and visit only your favorite places and your favorite people – while also avoiding doing any work and you’ve just found yourself on vacation in a former hometown.
  3. The dumbed down memory. When you’ve been away from something or someone for a while, your memory dulls about that subject. The details your memory tends to hold onto are the good ones because everything was always better “back then.” Whenever I get nostalgic about Philadelphia, I have to remember that it could take upwards of 20 minutes to find a parking spot near-ish my South Philly row house on a Friday night.

This month I returned to Southern California for the first time in 20 some years. In February of 1995 I was offered a position in Newport Beach – one week after I set myself up in my first real apartment in Philadelphia and one week before I met my first husband. The “What if …?” game jumped off the charts.

What if I had accepted that position? How would my life be now?

And then I ended up in Patricia Ryan Madson’s Improv for Humans workshop at the Global Improvisation Initiative Symposium in Irvine.

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Who’s Afraid of the Big, Bad Improv Wolf?

I remember the very first day of improv class at the training center I attended in Denver. The room was so quiet you could practically hear everyone breathing. No one sat together. No one made eye contact. No one even seemed like they came into the space voluntarily – not even me.

And I had already been through an entire training program in Philadelphia.

In fact, I had already been on an improv troupe. So why was I – along with everyone else – acting like the big, bad improv wolf was about to eat us?

3 Reasons:

1. “I suck.” So many fears fall into this category. The fear of not being funny enough. The fear of just not being enough – period. The fear of stumbling in the moment and not knowing what to say or do. The fear of not being a big enough personality. However, in improv if we trust the process and get out of our way, we don’t suck. It’s really that easy. Except it isn’t. It’s hard to trust the process because ego is involved. Which bring us to the next reason …

2. “I’ll look ridiculous.” Yes, you will look ridiculous. And so will I. And so will everyone in the room. However, the person who looks the most ridiculous is the person who isn’t committed to looking ridiculous. Make sense? When everyone commits to the exercise, the game, the activity, the truth is that no one looks ridiculous because everyone is supporting and accepting and making each other look brilliant. The person who can’t commit to going big, is often the person who might not be trustworthy which leads us to the final reason…

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5 Reasons to Laugh at Nothing at All

Whenever I reveal to someone that I’m a certified laughter yoga leader the conversation is always the same.

“You’re a WHAT?!”

“A certified laughter yoga leader.”

“Did you say laughter yoga?”

“Sure did!”

“So… you laugh while you do yoga poses?”

“Nope, no poses. You breathe in between laughing.”

“What do you laugh at?”

“Nothing, nothing at all!”

“Really?!”

So what IS this laughter yoga thing anyway?

It’s this: Breathing, Stretching, Clapping, Laughing, Relaxation, Meditation

Getting ready to lead laughter yoga to a group of nurses – ho, ho, ha ha ha!

More importantly why do laughter yoga? For me, laughter yoga is the sweet spot. It’s the high of an improv class mixed with the zen of a yoga class. It makes me feel like I’ve connected to the people in the room while my abs get a workout (think big belly laughs) and my mind gets time to rest and become grounded.

At the same time, it’s really, really silly. Why would you want to be in a room of people doing something such as shooting fake arrows at each other while laughing? Why would you want to stretch your arm while winding up a fake bowling ball and inhaling deeply? Why would you want to lie on the floor imagining a smile in your toe that makes its way to your mouth?

Great questions! Here’s why:

1. Your mood will shift – Laughter yoga boosts your mood quickly because it releases endorphins from your brain. When I would attend my Monday laughter yoga club sessions at lunchtime in Denver, I’d show up in a grouchy Monday mood and be a different person at the end of the hour.

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5 Ways to Avoid Being an A** Hole When Traveling in Southeast Asia

A few weeks ago, when I arrived in Hanoi after 35 hours of traveling, I ate a snack and then slept for more than 12 hours. It was glorious. Once up and out, after figuring out the lay of the land, the first significant adventure was performing in an improv show with The Rotten Grapes – an improv troupe comprised of international players that were all strangers to me. However, despite suffering from jet lag and traveler’s stomach, and, being surrounded with a room full of new faces, the vibe in the room was strangely familiar. Starting off a big adventure halfway around the world with an improv event grounded me, and, helped me embrace the improv mindset moving forward. In doing so, I was reminded that I was a visitor in a culture different than my own and that a spirit of discovery would guide my journey, helping me to avoid being an a** hole. Unfortunately, not everyone starts off a travel experience with an improv event. In those cases, this five-step guide is a great reminder of how we can avoid the “a** hole” trap.

Me with The Rotten Grapes improv troupe

1. Put on Your Pants

It is hot in Cambodia – very hot. And, there are temples in Cambodia – lots of temples. Imagine visiting Angkor Wat — a Cambodian temple complex that is the largest religious monument in the world – and being very, very hot. Now think about wearing a tank top, short shorts or even worse – see through pants with a thong on underneath (yes, I actually saw this last one). If you do, you might be stopped and asked to purchase a scarf or a skirt because although you may be a tourist/backpacker/atheist/whatever, many others are visiting the temples for religious purposes. Bottom line? Just because Lonely Planet rated Angkor Wat as the world’s number one site, it was not created to be a tourist attraction.

Improv wisdom: It’s not about you – it’s about the community.

2. Say “See Ya!” to Selfie Sticks

Wearing my pants in Angkor Wat

Of course we take selfies to document our adventures. And, maybe we can do so without the sticks? One memory that is etched in my brain is the day I saw someone take a selfie – with a selfie stick – inside Ho Chi Minh City’s War Remnants Museum with photos of people affected by agent orange in the background. No, no, no! Many parts of Southeast Asia are crowded. Many parts of Southeast Asia are poor. And, some parts of Southeast Asia have had very difficult histories due to war and ethnic cleansing and don’t need your selfie stick waving around showing disrespect. Instead show kindness and compassion.

Improv wisdom: Play while you travel – to the top of your intelligence.

3. Practice Being Pizza Free

Sometimes when you’ve been on the road for a while, you just want something that tastes like home. I get it! I craved cheese really bad about ten days into this trip. However, if you aren’t traveling for an extended period of time, why not try to embrace the local flavors for a more authentic experience? One evening, our group ended up in a tourist trap (think the Southeast Asia version of TGIF) on Pub Street in Siem Reap (bad). My husband ordered a pizza (really bad). Then the pizza turned out to be so horrible it was replaced with a second pizza – equally as horrible (really, really bad). Cambodia isn’t known for pizza. Save it for when you get home – it will taste even better then. Use the time in Southeast Asia to learn to use chopsticks while none of your friends are watching!

Improv wisdom: The scene begins when the first unusual thing happens – step away from your ordinary when dining.

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How Might You Say, “Yes” to 2017?

Just Say YesIt’s that time of the month where people start to let go of new year’s resolutions. Instead of holding onto the pressure that accompanies resolutions, why not say, “yes” to something – anything – that enables you to move forward personally and/or professionally?

When I was laid up after foot surgery two years ago at this time, I said, “yes” to researching coastal communities. I didn’t say, “yes” to moving – instead I embraced the small action step — that lead to another small action step — that lead to a big move. Without having completed the small task, the big challenge could never have been possible.

In improv, we practice this – a lot. As humans we are conditioned to find all the reasons why something won’t work. We look for excuses to shut down, to predict failure, to use “no” as a protective shield. In improv, the “yes” moves things forward on stage – and on the stage of life. Imagine if this were the norm. What might we create as a society?

Those three letters have transformational powers — and I’m not the only one who has been impacted by the power of “yes!”…

“Saying ‘yes’ allowed me to challenge myself in my career and succeed at things that I never thought I was capable of handling.”

~ Claudine, Malvern, PA

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“I said ‘yes’ to improv classes, not to get on stage, but because I like the philosophy behind it. I like being placed in uncomfortable situations—it has helped me get a deeper understanding of who I am.”

~ Alexandra, San Juan, PR

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How Improv Saved 2016 (and how it will put the awesome into 2017)

improv saved 2016I don’t know about you, but I’m always hard on myself two days of the year – on my birthday and on New Year’s Day. Those are the days when the inner critic takes over and starts telling me all the things “I should have done” over the past year. Does this sound familiar? If you’re a stage improviser, the inner critic might sit on your shoulder after every performance. But, what if … just what if we use the spirit of improv to approach the New Year with the inner critic as our friend rather than foe? Let’s give it a whirl …

Highlights from my 2016 year in review:

  1. Improv – It was an amazing year of improv in my new town as I launched an improv training center at Limelight Theatre. In doing so, I touched people in the community from ages 4 – 92 via improv playshops in schools, libraries, rotary clubs, senior centers, community centers, business communities, yoga communities, women’s communities, etc. My show, It’s All About Amy played in the Palm Beach Improv Festival and the Tampa Bay Improv Festival. It also appeared in Myrtle Beach, Orlando, Jacksonville and St. Augustine with talented rotating partners. My other show, 3 Blind Dates, played to sold-out audiences in Jacksonville and St. Augustine. And, this new improv community in St. Augustine is growing as more people are embracing the “yes, and …” concept of improv on stage, and, in life.Key West
  1. Travel – My adventures took me all over Florida – to Orlando, Naples, St. Petersburg, Marianna, Miami Beach, West Palm Beach and the Florida Keys. Road trips outside of the state took me up the Eastern Seaboard to Savannah and Tybee Island, Myrtle Beach and the Outer Banks. Air travel enabled me to be on two beaches in one day – twice! Once I ended up at the Jersey shore as a side trip when going home to Philadelphia. And the other took me to Manzanita, Oregon as a side trip when going to the World Domination Summit in Portland. Imagine starting your day on the Atlantic and ending it on the Pacific!

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Where is Your Happy Place? (I Have Two and One isn’t Even a Place)

Where is your happy place?You know those people that live near mountains, but never ski? Well there are also people who live near the beach, but never actually get sand between their toes. I am not one of those people. Since visiting Miami Beach last month, I’ve road tripped to Myrtle Beach (and Charleston), SC; St. Petersburg (and St. Pete Beach), FL; and, the Outer Banks of North Carolina. While some travel was work related and some was family related, all of it involved beaches. A coincidence? Not really. In July I went home to Philadelphia and took a side trip to the shore for – yes, that’s right – the beach. In fact, the day I went to Ocean City, NJ I had already seen the Atlantic Ocean next to my house. Even more unbelievable was the day this summer I left Florida for Oregon – I saw the Atlantic in the morning and the Pacific in the evening.

Happy Place: Beach

Happy place #1: The beach (The path leading to the beach on North Carolina’s Ocracoke Island.)

I’m thankful for the beach on Thanksgiving and every other day of the year.

When I have to go to the “interior” area of Florida, I rush home to get back to the beach. Why? Because it’s the place where my senses have a positive experience (except when the bugs are out of course!). I love the smell and taste of salt air. I love the feel of ocean breezes and the feel of sand under my feet. I love the sound of crashing waves. I love the sight of the sun reflecting off the water and watching the sky change color over the dunes as the day turns into evening. And, yes, maybe this all sounds cliché, but, I really mean it.

The happiest day I had in 2014 was the one where I woke up really early in San Francisco, walked through Golden Gate Park to a local coffee shop and then enjoyed the coffee on Ocean Beach. In fact, I enjoyed that day so much that almost a year to the day later, I was moving into my Vilano Beach house – 489 steps from the beach.

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How to be Resilient After a Storm? Adopt These 3 Improv Tools

stormI wanted to be writing to you about how to have a meaningful adventure in Peru via responsible travel. I also wanted to be writing to you about lessons learned from Peruvian improvisers that I worked with in Lima. Instead, I’m writing to you about resilience after a storm.

In the days leading up to Hurricane Matthew’s arrival in Florida, my husband and I were making contingency plans as we figured our flight out of Miami would be in jeopardy. However, once we realized the severity of the storm predictions, and the path it was predicted to take, travel contingency plans turned to evacuation plans. In less than 24 hours, we secured our house as best we could and made arrangements for our dog, our cats and ourselves – all of us going to different towns across Florida. While we had good fortune on several accounts as our pets were in good hands and we were celebrated my birthday on my cousin’s farm during the evacuation, the storm weighed on my mind throughout the weekend. In fact, I can’t say I was the most present houseguest as I worried about the fate of our house, our neighbors who stayed behind, and, St. Augustine – our adopted town that I’ve grown to love. Read more »

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How to be a Star on the Stage of Life (Hint: Think Improv)

How to be a Star on the Stage of LifeEven though it’s been a long time since I’ve been in school, September always reminds me that it’s the season to learn something. For years, I’ve wanted to learn to be a stronger improviser. While that remains a constant, what’s even more present now is the desire to hold space for people who want to experience how improv might touch their lives. However, when someone discovers my improv background, I usually get the following responses:

  1. “Tell me a joke – go ahead, say something funny!”
  2. “Oh I could never do that!”

And guess what? These responses are a great teaching moment for me because:

  1. Improv isn’t about telling jokes or being funny.
  2. Improv is something everyone is already doing because life is unscripted.

According to Wikipedia, “Improvisational theater, often called improv, is a form of theater where most or all of what is performed is created at the moment it is performed. In its purest form, the dialogue, the action, the story and the characters are created collaboratively by the players as the improvisation unfolds in present time, without use of an already prepared, written script.”

Our unscripted lives unfold in the present time. And, every interaction we have with someone is a scene in our own lives. We just don’t realize we’re improvising because we think of improv as something that only happens on stage.

Level 2 improv

Everyone’s a star in Level 2 improv class!

There’s nothing special about me as an improviser. I bought myself improv classes 15 years ago as a divorce present. Because of that, I fell in love with an art form. However, it wasn’t until years later that I realized this art form had been affecting me in ways I didn’t realize because I was focusing on performing. The truth is that what was developing off stage – with my personal and professional development – was way more important.

For all the people who have asked me to “say something funny” over the years, here are the top ten ways improv can make you a star on life’s stage:

 Ten: You learn how to be the present. Improv is about the moment and doesn’t allow you to dwell in the past or worry about the future. If you’re not present, you’re not getting the most out of the moment.

 Nine: You explore your own creativity. You’re able to tap into parts of yourself that aren’t available in your daily routine. You can actually let your guard down and have fun doing it!

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