Birthday 2019 in the Czech Republic

It’s been a year since I wrote my last blog post. (Is it even still called a blog post or just a post?) The funny thing is that nothing happened – meaning, I didn’t wake up one day and say, ”That’s it blog I’m done with you.” There was no drama, no tears, no bitter feelings. I. Just. Stopped. Looking back, I think what was really happening was that I was starting to go inward. As an ambivert, I have a keen self-awareness about when I need people and when I need my thoughts. This time last year, maybe without even knowing it, I just needed my thoughts.

At the beginning of October, I celebrated my birthday in Central Europe. I visited Austria, the Czech Republic, Poland, Slovakia and Hungary with Intrepid Travel. During that adventure, I realized that something was off. One physical thing that nagged me was my foot – since then I’ve discovered that my tendonosis – mixed with a 20% tear in my Achilles – is leading me back to (another) foot surgery. The other thing that was off was my relationship with my then husband. I say “then” husband because the following month I asked for a divorce. And then life became a little messy and a little complicated …

In December I bought a divorce condo. In January I moved into the condo and transformed it from an “old lady” joint to an artsy sanctuary dubbed, “The Pineapple Playhouse.” In February my divorce was final. In March I went on a divorce trip to my happy place – Isla Mujeres, Mexico – and fell in love while there.

Celebrating my divorce on the Island of Women in Mexico

And then the pandemic hit.

Improv stopped. Travel stopped. Adventure stopped.

Corona the Dog

And then in April I found a dog on the street and nursed him back to health, naming him Corona. In May I accidentally fell in love with a local gentleman. In June I started teaching soft skills to aspiring automotive technicians. In July I was accepted into my first virtual improv festival. In August I dipped a toe back into the adventure pool with a mini road trip. And now, in September, the local gentleman has his mail delivered here – to the Pineapple Playhouse.

So why am I telling you this? To let you know that it’s OK if you stop doing something for a while. It’s OK to give yourself permission to shift focus – even if you’re not doing it intentionally. We need different things at different times — depending on our life circumstances and our personalities.

The only person that needs to be OK with whatever you’re doing – or not doing – is you.

This year’s birthday is going to be a bit more subdued than last with a mini road trip to Savannah. Even so, I’ll be sure to write about it – or maybe I won’t!